This is such an amazing reflection! Thank you so much for this.
I am 23, and when me and gal pals, have a conversation about the future, Most of us don’t want to get married. Keeping aside the marital Love, The thought of Having a child, Grooming yourself so as to not impact the child in a negative way( and still ending up impacting ), The thought of raising it, The thought of working my ass off for its future, The thought that we cannot act crazy not even for a minute in front of the child, The thought that we always have to be the calm, matured one and always be cautious about what you do, the thought of not having our own space when we want, the thought of not being able to take off somewhere if we want to, is ALL SOOOO EXHAUSTING AND OVERWHELMING!

I have always seen my mom making all these sacrifices, and I would tell her when i came of some age, I would tell her I am now financially stable to take care of myself and you, so please get a divorce(cos my dad doesn't treat her right, never has). She would never do it! She is so afraid of the way it would impact me. And i always wondered, Is this how I am supposed to be too when I am a mom? COS I CANNOT! And so the thought of being married, or having a child freaks me out, cos i can never sacrifice like her! Oh LORD! I love you so much ma! but you don’t have to do this for me! You don’t have to be a martyr for me! I want you to have your life, do what you like and be happy and not just live for me or dad, sacrificing your interest, hobbies and having no time for yourself.

Thank you so much for this article!